Steven Shewach

What’s It Gonna Take To Stop Screwing Yourself?

What’s It Gonna Take To Stop Screwing Yourself?

The Two Most Common Ways of Screwing Yourself A. Internal You know you’re holding yourself back in many facets of your life. You may even be able to explain the reasons why. And you can probably explain why you’re not going beyond them or moving through them. You understand, so you say, why there’s a void between where you are now and where you want to be. Yet somehow, despite ha ...[Read More]

I’m Turning Into My Father – And It’s Great

I’m Turning Into My Father – And It’s Great

My Dad …was a consummate schmoozer. He could talk to anyone, anytime, about anything. He could work any room or a back alley. He was affable, knowledgeable, and most importantly, genuinely interested in people—what was going on with them, what motivated them, what they loved. He was a CPA for most of his life, becoming a named partner in a local firm that was eventually bought out by an inte ...[Read More]

Can’t We All Just Own Our S**t: The End of Gender Stereotyping

Can’t We All Just Own Our S**t: The End of Gender Stereotyping

A Big Insight and My Purpose Recently I had a massive insight. Which has also turned into something I’ve longed for all of my adult life — finding and knowing my Purpose. For the first time (but not necessarily the last) I can state with certainly and clarity my life’s purpose: To assist men out of self-induced suffering and subsequent relationship problems caused by distorted masculin ...[Read More]

Hey Positivity Gurus, F**k You: Stop Being So Unempathetic

Hey Positivity Gurus, F**k You: Stop Being So Unempathetic

Which of the following statements have you heard before? I mean actually heard in person, directly to your face. Whence upon hearing it your first thought included some form of bodily injury; probably a big punch to their stupid face because that’s precisely where this banal, deflating, and confoundedly condescending commandment just came from. Commandments like: Just do it (thanks Nike R ...[Read More]

Stop Dicking Around and Make a Decision in Your Relationship

Stop Dicking Around and Make a Decision in Your Relationship

Dicking around. Dithering. Dilly-dallying. Shit or get off the pot. Make the call. These, and I’m sure many other sayings about decision-making abound. I could only think of the ones listed above and decided it was too much work to look for more, perhaps amusing, slang phrases about decision-making. Making a decision. What a pain in the ass. Am I right? That’s a yes or no decision. Let ...[Read More]

Going In and Getting Out: A Story of Adventure, Community, and Service

Going In and Getting Out: A Story of Adventure, Community, and Service

This is a story of Adventure, Community, and Service. It’s a story of a person who went through a monumental shift in how their reality is defined and experienced. This shift gave way to identifying a highly focused life purpose. It has been and will continue to be a journey. Throughout the process certain key milestones become visible; often after having passed through them. This fall, anot ...[Read More]

Togetherness Equals = I’ll Direct My Life and You Direct Your Life

Togetherness Equals = I’ll Direct My Life and You Direct Your Life

You’ve heard the phrase “Life is not a dress rehearsal”. It’s has a great message no doubt. Although when talking about the misery we put ourselves through in relationships, try on this little ditty, “The only person you can and ever should direct is you”. Delving further into this theatrical metaphor — if life is a play, ideally each person is their own d ...[Read More]

Life Lessons From a Man on a Kiddie Bike

Life Lessons From a Man on a Kiddie Bike

Let’s EAT (Emotional Agility Training) A couple of weeks ago I received another opportunity to continue EATing; that’s Emotional Agility Training. It’s step number four of my four-step Mind Taming Training program that I developed to cure myself of OES – Obese Ego Syndrome. The goal being greater awareness of my feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and physiological responses as in ...[Read More]